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  • Writer's pictureOanh Kim

Adulthood: Reflections on Fearlessness, Dreams, and Unwavering Growth

"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." - Charles R. Swindoll

From the whimsical days of youthful exuberance to the seasoned strides of approaching middle age, the concept of "adulting" weaves a complex narrative through the chapters of our lives. Join me as I unravel the threads of wisdom I've gathered along this incredible journey – a voyage that took me from my fearless and exploratory 20s, through the tug of war between reality and dreams in my 30s, and now, on the brink of my 40s.

Defining Adulting: A Shifting Landscape

Ah, adulting – a term that encapsulates the multifaceted art of navigating life's responsibilities, from bills and career choices to relationships and self-discovery. But when do we truly don the mantle of adulthood? Is it the age marked on our driver's license, or does it sneak up on us amidst the crescendo of life's experiences? The truth is, there's no magical age; instead, it's a gradual realization that dawns upon us, casting a spotlight on the ever-expanding spectrum of maturity.

Lessons from My Fearless 20s: Wishes, Wisdom & Willingness to Fail

In my 20s, I danced with dreams and explored the vast playground of possibilities. It was a decade of fearlessness and discovery. Looking back, I yearn to whisper into the ears of my younger self, urging her to embrace mistakes as stepping stones and view failures as badges of courage. Oh, the power of hindsight! I would assure her that uncertainties are woven into the fabric of life and that resilience is the key to navigating its twists and turns. I learnt to fail, and fail again, with a determination that life's challenges were mere gateways to growth.

Stepping into My 30s: Illuminations & Inner Resonance

As the 30s unfolded, I found myself standing at the crossroads of self-discovery. Amidst the rush of career growth and personal commitments, a newfound inner harmony began to resonate. It was a tug of war between the realization of reality and the persistence of dreams. I understood that being authentic, even if it meant vulnerability, was a source of strength. The expectations of society began to wane, replaced by a profound connection with my own aspirations.

Approaching My 40s: Where Confidence Meets Contentment

Now, as I approach the doorstep of my 40s, a tapestry of experiences adorns the canvas of my life. The once-echoing questions of "Am I doing it right?" have given way to the serene assurance that there's no universal blueprint for success. With age, the jagged edges of insecurity smooth into a comfortable confidence that allows me to embrace challenges with a steady gaze and an unwavering heart.

Parenthood: A Cliff's Edge of Bliss

Ah, parenthood – an odyssey that thrusts you to the edge of a cliff, urging you to leap into the abyss of unconditional love and selflessness. The tumultuous symphony of emotions that accompanies raising children is like no other. It tests your patience and sanity, yet rewards you with a kind of happiness that transcends all earthly pleasures. The regret of not embarking on this journey sooner is balanced by the understanding that my path unfolded exactly as it should have.

A Symphony of Growth and Grace

In the grand opera of life, each decade plays a unique melody, blending the notes of growth, resilience, and newfound joys. Adulthood isn't a destination; it's a journey of continuous transformation. As I stand on the precipice of my 40s, I am filled with gratitude for the lessons I've learned, the love I've shared, and the uncharted horizons that lie ahead. Through the highs and lows, I've discovered that life indeed becomes easier as you embrace its intricacies, and within its folds, happiness and confidence thrive in harmony.

TRUTH: I have learned to use the phrase "This too shall pass" often when encountering new experiences to stay balance.


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